I remember telling myself a while back to be very careful about what I say about people to other people. I’m afraid I really haven’t been very good at practising what I preach.
I had to spend an awful afternoon with Dr DJ today. He always stresses me out because of the threatening way in which he questions me or tells me about the 1001 things I have done wrong; so, in an attempt to regain some control over the situation, I gossiped about him with the nurses and one of the other trainees. And 2 days ago, I gossiped about another consultant Dr B2 (he hates trainees, doesn’t care, and is exceedingly difficult to work with) with another one of the ODPs.
Thinking back, I feel so foolish for not watching my tongue the way I should. For one, I would never know if the person in question may suddenly appear (as it happened today) or may have been quietly listening to me speaking ill of him/her. Secondly, I honestly don’t know who I can trust these secrets with. The people with whom I have shared gossip with may very well go on to tell on me and get me into trouble!
Morally, gossip is wrong as well. I could be telling other people about what someone else did or said without truly knowing the whole story behind his or her behaviour. And sometimes, when I’ve realised that my conclusions about the person I gossiped about are wrong due to misunderstanding, I cannot take my words back. In fact, the story may have spread like wildfire as it has been recounted with exaggerations from one gossiper to another. The person’s reputation and credibility are tarnished- and no amount of apology I make will be sufficient to compensate for his/her loss. I should not do unto others what I would hate for others to do unto me. When I have a problem with someone else, I should go and speak to the person in private to thrash it out, gossiping about him or her will not help resolve the situation in any way.
Finally, the bible speaks out against gossip. “Keep your tongue from evil and your lips from speaking lies.” (Psalm 34:13) I do not want my tongue to cause me to sin, lest I need to cut it off and throw it out, for it is better to go to heaven unable to speak, than to end up in hell with an evil tongue. My Lord is a God of reconciliation- He sent Jesus to reconcile Himself to us, and He wants us to reflect His nature by reconciling ourselves one to another. God wants us to build relationships in love, but gossip only destroys them in envy and self-righteousness.
Satan is the father of lies. I am a child of God. I should not conform to the devil’s ways.